Wedding Crashers Are No Joke

Don’t Let Unwanted Guests Ruin Your Wedding Day

Don’t Let Unwanted Guests Ruin Your Wedding Day

We all know the movie Wedding cCrashers, but it’s just a movie, right? People crashing to meet singles or drink for free doesn’t really happen. Well it does and recently one individual has taken it a step further, stealing gifts and cards at several weddings leaving the bride and groom with a nightmare end to their magical day.

Currently, authorities are currently looking for a woman in Texas who they believe has been involved in several thefts at weddings.  It’s gone beyond a funny fad into serious business that can ruin a couple’s special day. As a wedding planner, unwanted guests are something we need to be aware of throughout the event. In many cases, we are the first to spot a suspicious person and can be the first defense in keeping unwanted guests away.

So how do you spot suspicious guests and hopefully avoid this from happening to you? There are some simple steps you can implement to ensure no one is able to walk away with valuables and personal belongings.


1.      Make sure cards are kept in a box that locks securely and the key is kept in a safe place. If available, assign one person to have cards locked in the venue’s safe where you can keep track of the number of cards and only one person (who you trust) has access.

2.     Encourage guests to have gifts sent before the wedding. This is becoming more the norm and will reduce the number of gifts brought to the wedding and less for a thief to take.

3.     Assign someone to monitor gifts or ask the venue if they can provide a person to do this. They should monitor the area where gifts are presented and then they can move them to a locked room.

4.    If you don’t have someone to watch gifts and cards, make sure they are kept somewhere that is not easily accessible to the public. Many times gifts and cards are kept near the entrance, but this makes it easy for thieves to help themselves.

5.    Some venues require guests to sign in and provide an ID. This may seem unnecessary and inconvenient for your guests, but it adds another layer of protection. And really, if it stops someone from ruining your day, isn’t it worth it? If this seems extreme, talk to your venue about options for security and having someone discreetly monitoring the area and guests for any suspicious activity.

Weddings should be about joy and laughter and it’s a sad reality that others are taking advantage of these celebrations for their own gain. We hope this is a trend that will fade quickly, but taking a few steps to ensure unwanted guests don’t ruin your day is priceless, right?


Toast of the town


The toasts (no we’re not talking about avocado toast) are a fixture at weddings. They make guests feel welcome and many times bring you closer to the couple and the milestones that brought them together.

Most are familiar with the welcome, typically given by the father of the bride, or more common now given by parents of the bride or groom. There is also the best man and MOH speech. These are part of the special moments that make up your event and often become part of your wedding story – yes, every wedding has a story and many times it comes from the events of the day – many coming from the details that didn’t quite go as planned. This is the story of your wedding that make it special and will be remembered.

Because toasts are such an important part of the wedding, we are seeing a growing trend of the couple’s toast. This is a trend we are encouraging our couples to consider as they plan their day. It’s an opportunity to thank guests and let them know how special it is that everyone they love are all in one place and able to share this moment.

Giving a toast may seem daunting and just one more item to add to the to do list, but it can sprinkle in the personal, intimate touch that elevates the experience for your guests AND for you as the couple. Imagine watching this moment 5, 10, 15 years later and being transported back to the day and the emotions you felt, beautifully captured forever.

If the thought of public speaking makes your palms sweat, don’t worry! There are ways to plan and give a flawless speech. We’ve worked with many couples to review their speech or have sat with them (love Zoom or Go to Meetings if you can’t meet in person) while they read the speech out loud to us. No matter your comfort level with public speaking, we always recommend practicing and being aware of the length and delivery. As your planning family, we’re happy to help!

If you are unsure what to say or how to express your feelings, we can also work with you to find a ghost writer, someone that will take your thoughts and emotions and eloquently put them on paper. There is no shame in going this route and there are many ways a ghost writer can help. Check out the fabulous ghost writing resources we’ve put together for you to help find the right partner.

Whether you decide to embrace this trend or not, remember to have fun, raise your glasses together and soak in the moment with all your loved ones around you in one place. Cheers!